Loneliness in Later Life: Ways to Build Connection

Feeling lonely from time to time is a normal part of being human. But for many older adults, life changes such as retirement, the loss of a spouse or friends, moving to a new place or changes in health can make loneliness more frequent. The National Institute on Aging notes that social isolation and loneliness are linked to a range of health concerns, which is one reason staying connected matters.

If you are feeling lonely, you are not alone, and there are many practical ways to build connection.

Loneliness and isolation are different

Social isolation means having few social contacts. Loneliness is the feeling of being alone or disconnected, which can happen even when you are surrounded by people. Both are worth addressing.

Start with small, regular routines

Connection often grows from repeated, low-pressure contact. Consider:

• A weekly phone or video call with a family member or friend at the same time each week
• A regular coffee with a neighbor
• Attending the same class or group every week so you see familiar faces
• Saying hello to people you see regularly, like the mail carrier, pharmacist or grocery clerk

Places to meet people

• Senior centers offer meals, classes, games, exercise and trips.
• Libraries host book clubs, technology classes, lectures and hobby groups.
• Places of worship often have social groups and volunteer opportunities.
• Community colleges and lifelong learning programs offer classes for older adults.
• Parks and recreation departments run walking groups, fitness classes and outings.
• Clubs and interest groups for gardening, crafts, cards, music, history and more.

Volunteer

Helping others is one of the most rewarding ways to connect. Hospitals, schools, food banks, museums, animal shelters and community organizations welcome volunteers. AmeriCorps Seniors programs, such as Foster Grandparents and RSVP, offer structured volunteer roles for adults 55 and older.

Use technology to stay in touch

Video calls, messaging apps and social media can help you stay close to family and friends who live far away. If technology feels intimidating, many libraries and senior centers offer free help. Grandchildren are often happy to teach too.

Consider a pet

Pets offer companionship and routine, and dog walking can lead to conversations with neighbors. If caring for a pet full-time is not practical, consider fostering, volunteering at a shelter or pet-sitting for a friend.

Address barriers

Hearing or vision changes can make socializing harder. Getting a hearing or eye exam and using hearing aids or glasses can make conversations easier.

Transportation can be a challenge. Your local Area Agency on Aging can tell you about ride programs, and some senior centers provide transportation.

Mobility limitations do not have to stop you. Phone-based groups, online classes and friendly visitor programs bring connection to you.

Friendly call and visitor programs

Many communities offer programs where volunteers call or visit older adults regularly. Contact the Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677-1116 or visit eldercare.acl.gov to find services near you.

When loneliness affects your mood

If loneliness comes with persistent sadness, loss of interest in things you used to enjoy, changes in sleep or appetite, or feelings of hopelessness, talk with your doctor. These may be signs of depression, which is treatable. If you are having thoughts of harming yourself, call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline any time.

Reaching out to others

If you know someone who might be lonely, a phone call, a visit or an invitation can mean a lot. Sometimes the first step toward connection is offering it to someone else.